Hey There 20-Year-Old Self

Now that I’m 40, I have a few choice bits of advice for those kids half my age. 
  1. Take an hour of your precious life and sit down with a financial planner now. Just one little hour. I promise it’s worth it.
  2. Have one credit card. Each time you use, pay it off  before bed. Make this a habit.
  3. Start a good things jar. Everytime something lovely happens, write it on a piece of paper and put it in your good things jar.
  4. Moisturize.
  5. Floss.
  6. Put cream on your feet and hands each night when you climb into bed.
  7. Sit in the shade.
  8. Learn to love smoothies.
  9. Put lemon in your water. It alkalines your system. Disease doesn’t like alkaline.
  10. Fuck diets. Eat what makes your body feel good, not your emotions.
  11. Start therapy. Now. Trust me. Not everyone needs it, but everyone can benefit from it.
  12. Dance. Whenever possible.
  13. Sing. Same applies.
  14. Dare to just experience a moment instead of take a picture of it.
  15. Put your phone away during meals. Or visits. Or walks. Actually, just put your phone away whenever possible.
  16. Cry if you need it. You’ll feel better.
  17. Generally, the same applies to throwing up. (also, see next)
  18. Never have another drink if it’s after midnight.
  19. If you have an opportunity to say something kind to someone, say it. Don’t worry about being embarrassed. Your kindness will have an effect.
  20. Ask for help when you need it.
  21. Play with your dog.
  22. Friends don’t make friends do shooters.
  23. You should never have to convince someone to love you. It also won’t work.
  24. Fuck high-heels.
  25. Do 5 minutes of stretching every morning.
  26. If you have the chance to be in the woods, go.
  27. Start to learn an instrument. Now.
  28. Always leave the party when you’re still having fun.
  29. Don’t drive after even one drink. Just make it a rule for yourself.
  30. Go for a bike ride.
  31. Do the dishes before going to bed.
  32. If you want to say ‘I love you,’ say it. Only truth will result.
  33. Always wait 2 days before sending an angry email.
  34. Know what your 5 favourite books are.
  35. Don’t text someone after 1:AM. Unless it’s a cab.
  36. Dive into the water whenever possible. Wading in is no way to live.
  37. Get your hair wet and let your mascara run. It’s worth it.
  38. Have the courage to be wrong. Even when you’re certain you’re right.
  39. Listen three times as much as you talk.
  40. Forget this list. Forget other lists. Make your own list.

 

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